Hair treatment

“Hello, my name is Tholakele and I have only recently learned how to love and look after my hair.” Words like: tangled, difficult, uncombable, wiry and tough crept into the fabric that wove the foundations of my understanding of my hair and created ugly holes filled with frustration, confusion and ambivalence. My father used to sit me between his knees, spray water on my hair … Continue reading Hair treatment


Her voice blares through the speaker on my phone, she is laughing at me, tired and lazy-like, the way she always does when we are complaining or comparing. I’m telling her about winter and how I find myself throwing back champion amounts of red wine, chocolate and an occasional giant sized packet of Jumping Jack mature cheddar flavour popcorn. I’m explaining that I really should … Continue reading FAT

Not having sex

I’m not having sex at the moment. I haven’t been for a while actually… It’s bizarre that this is a difficult thing to say. Yet here I am writing about my sex life and many might assume that by not having sex, I would then not have a sex life. Interestingly enough, my sex life has been amazingly active. As a woman and an individual … Continue reading Not having sex